And the Lord God said, “ It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 NKJV
Wives, being that we have been called helpmates by the Heavenly Father and not just called, but literally created hallelujah, with that function, with that purpose, with that calling from The Almighty Himself, when it comes to our husbands, can they honestly say, that we are walking in and out our call to be helpmates? Do we ever hear our husbands thank us for our help and sincerely mean it, and we sincerely, believe it? Do we feel our husbands actually thank the Father for our assistance?
Are we as wives, in a posture of helping, serving, being of aid and assistance of, adding, complementing and creating an environment from what we do, by being led by the Father that shows how much, we are truly are a vital need in their lives? And when I say this I’m simply asking, are we in the posture of being who we have been called and ordained to be by the Heavenly Father? Going to the Father on a continual basis to continue to ask and seek His help to help us be who He Has seen us to be before the foundation of the world. Before even maybe, some of the hurt or disappointment in our marriage Etc. yes, before all of that?
I know personally, this is something that I am constantly before the Father asking for His help, His assistance, because I want to be who the Father has called for me to be, in the way He has called for me to do it and so, it DOES take a continual heart of humility, and staying in a place of, help me Lord, because I don’t know the way, for Your way alone is The best way and I need You to teach me and teach me yet again, and again, and again, such that, I never become too comfortable, realizing there IS always room for growth i.e. improvement.
Father, we avail ourselves to You to be ye transformed by Your Spirit to walk out our predestined call as helpmates. Thank You Father, for helping us to see, value and walk out our worth and identity in You. Thank You Father, for teaching us what a helpmate is from Your perspective. Thank You that as we keep a teachable heart posture before You, You will teach us and all will witness the changes for Your Glory. Amen.
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And the Lord God said, “ It is not good that man should be alone; I will make him a helper comparable to him.” Genesis 2:18 NKJV
So I, the prisoner for the Lord, appeal to you to live a life worthy of the calling to which you have been called [that is, to live a life that exhibits godly character, moral courage, personal integrity, and mature behavior–a life that expresses gratitude to God for your salvation], with all humility [forsaking self-righteousness], and gentleness [maintaining self-control], with patience, bearing with one another in [unselfish] love. Make every effort to keep the oneness of the Spirit in the bond of peace [each individual working together to make the whole successful]. And do not give the devil an opportunity [to lead you into sin by holding a grudge, or nurturing anger, or harboring resentment, or cultivating bitterness].
EPHESIANS 4:1-3, 27 AMP
Wow… what a word for us all to reflect on and to even be more intentional about that The Heavenly Father would be glorified. I mean, what if we all approached situations like, you know what.. It’s not about who’s right and who’s wrong in this or that, but I am choosing to make every effort to keep the oneness of the Spirit in the bond of peace [each individual working together to make the whole successful]. Wow imagine what glory the Father would get from our lives when we applied this word even the more.
Father, help us all to not skim this word but aim to live out this word for Your glory. Forgive us when we have not applied this to our actions. For we do ask for Your supernatural assistance as we yield ourselves to Your work within. Amen
In living in a world that is ALL just about us and what WE want, know due to this, we MUST constantly bring ourselves before the Almighty, that in doing so, we’d continue to receive our minds being ye renewed such that, prayerfully, selfishness does not rule.
Truly, to pray for humility in every area is something that’s a continual critical need especially since the me, my, and I our fleshly nature always seeks to reign.
In fact, in an effort to pursue being selfless I’d like to challenge us all to do a study on the word humility, to be intentional about learning the Father’s heart concerning this and not just relying upon that in which we’ve heard. I will probably share my findings with you in a later post but first want to give you the opportunity to do it yourself.
Taking an introspective look at ourselves often with a heart posture for the Father to show us and what He sees will help to keep us from… and will help us to instead operate from a place of Lord your will vs. my will.
Please do take a moment to pray with me, as I pray for myself:
Father, I ask that you’d forgive me for the times that I have been selfish, stingy, unthoughtful, uncaring, unresponsive, putting my interests above my husband’s. Father I pray that you will help me to continue to humble myself under the mighty hand of You such that all that you’d will for Your son to delight in and to enjoy while he is in the land of the living, that he may receive and too be all You have called him to be in the very freedom of You. For I was created to be a help mate and so, I thank You for showing me what that looks like from Your perspective. Amen.
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I love you, I love you, I love you, nowadays it’s so easy to say that we love our spouses, but yet, not show them with our actions.
However, what would the words I love you, really look like if we could not say it verbally with our mouths? Would our spouses REALLY be able to see as a result of our actions, that our actions demonstrate that we love our spouses.
I know personally, this is definitely an area I can improve in and so, one of the things I’ve begun to do, is to literally study my spouse to see, what are the things that my spouse likes and what are the things that my spouse does not like and then, I intentionally set out to please him in these particular ways.
Now make no mistake about it, of course, if I really look at the big picture all together, it would just look totally overwhelming. However, I’ve been ministering to myself lately and saying, no, I may not be able to do everything in the whole entire picture but, I CAN do something. And I have purposed in my heart to focus on that piece while at the same time thanking the Lord that each piece I do WILL contribute to the whole.
So, I’d like to encourage you as well, to begin to study your spouse such that you may minister to them in the way that’s specific to them, because in doing so you WILL be loving them even without your words.
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It’s time for you to begin interceding on the behalf of your husband. Intercession is not going to GOD complaining about your husband. It’s ascending into the heavenly realm to the throne room of the Lord letting God show you how He sees your husband and wanting you to pray (come into agreement with)that. You see the enemy wants you to complain and murmur about your husband such that you can’t ascend. It’s time for you to see the bigger picture about your husband, to 1) find out why the enemy is trying to come so hard after him and 2) the way GOD sees him.
Do you realize that you are very, very powerful? Do you realize the authority that you have and that you are the only one in this earth who is anointed to pray breakthroughs for your husband. Not Bishop A, Apostle B, Prophet C…
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If you’re looking for some great resources to grow in your marriage with your spouse, than I’d highly recommend this material. The power of a Praying Wife by author Stormie Omartian and A Woman after God’s own Heart by author Elizabeth George
For the Father put it upon my heart to share these resources with you, because over the course of a decade in which I’ve now been married, these resources have helped me continually, time and time again in my marriage. And what I love about these anointed works, is that I don’t care how many times I have read it, every time I pick it up, it’s as though, I never read it, and I am able to glean so much from them each time. Currently, I’m on a prayer fast, where I have committed unto the Lord to intentionally, pray for my husband for a certain amount of time before I even eat, and this has really been awesome for me to do. In doing so, I have used Storminie Omartians book and it has just been so rich.
Please do let me know, if you get these resources and how they, as well impact your life. I can guarantee they will if, you indeed, have a teachable spirit and are ready to be taught by the Lord yet, again and again.
Blessings People of God,
If you are looking for a ministry that can really support your marriage I’d highly like to encourage you to go to this website being, realgodlylove.com and definitely check this ministry out. Anthony and I just attended a marriage outing this ministry hosted and I am here to say, that it was such a blessing and so refreshing! For both me and Antony were able to fellowship, have fun, hear awesome testimonies about how with God truly, nothing is impossible and just have a great time, being in an environment where we could just connect in a greater way. What I also appreciated about this event was that it was done in a spirit of excellence, to the point where, when it was over nobody wanted to leave. Being that this is a time where our marriages are seriously in need of being ye strengthened in the Lord we need ministries such as realgodlylove.com and others therefore let’s support them and show them we appreciate their work in the Lord.
It’s my prayer, that I am, and I continue to become, the helpmate God has preordained for me to be. That I do, support and assist, in my God given role, constantly.
It’s my prayer, that when my husband thinks, or even looks upon me, that he is grateful unto the Lord for me.
Yes, that in his heart of hearts, in the inward hidden parts of his being, that unto him I am thought to be not a curse, not a hindrance, but instead a blessing! A vital necessity to his life and destiny.
It’s my prayer, that I die enough to myself and my own selfish desires, that I don’t jeopardize seeing the fulfillment of God’s plan manifested, in both he and I, as the one complete man, God has called us together to be.
My prayer is that there will be a hallelujah, a thank you Jesus, in his mouth, as a result to me being in his life. Opposed to an “Oh Lord, Jesus this woman, is getting on my last nerve, please remove her.”
My prayer is that I learn to serve my husband, as if I were serving Christ Himself. Let me selah, on that one for a minute…
Yes, that I would honor Him, as the king he is.
I pray I would extravagantly love on him, that ultimately he would know that the Lord God Almighty is alive, real, and living. By just how God, operates in and through me, on His behalf.
I pray, I can perceive his needs, before it’s even asked or needed. I pray, I can continue to wow him, with the unexpected surprises to keep him always on his toes looking for more…
I pray, I am able to create a sanctuary in my home that I can continue to hear him say, “Boy, am I so glad to be home.”
I pray, when I am looked upon by him, I am a continual joy, something to be enjoyed. Instead of, “Oh Lord, why Me?”
Now though, yes, this may sound like a whole, heck of a lot, still, I know, it’s not unrealistic, because nothing is impossible with God, if I have faith the size of a mustarded seed. Thus, my prayer is signed, sealed, and delivered.
In essence, what you hear, is a woman of God, crying out for more, refusing to accept my current state, refusing to be stagnant and complacent. Amen.
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What I have come to discover as an absolute truth about marriage is that, marriage is all about serving. Yes, being a servant and living out a heart position of intentionally aiming to serve our spouses on a continual basis. Especially, when we are trying to have a marriage God’s way opposed to the worlds way. But yet, what I have also come to know as an absolute truth is that, serving is God’s business. Meaning, serving is something that can only come from God and His overwhelming overflow of love, and our yielding to Him to give it. And since serving can only be produced from God in its authentic form, truth is, if we are not going to the Father on a consistent basis to be loved on by Him that we may in return give it in its purest way then guess what, we’ll be giving only a form of love. And that form of love of course, is merely temporal and it constantly looks for a return in everything… In fact, loving out of a form opposed to the authentic ness of God’s love will only eventually cause us to become exhausted, hurt, disappointed, ineffective etc. All because of again, trying to give and do in our own strength opposed to giving and doing out of the overflow we have received from the Father.
Therefore, just as I am praying for you, I am also praying for myself, that we will begin to see our need in a greater way of loving out of the overflow of that which is produced from our Heavenly Father instead of that in which we are just scraping up to give. It is also my prayer we will give everything and do all God would have for us to do with our spouses.
May God continue to bless, strengthen and encourage you while you are on your faith journey.
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I wonder if in our spouses heart do they really and truly thank God for us being in their lives or do they do quite the opposite? Yes, are we a blessing to our spouses or a curse? Are we really the suitable mate or are we a burden? These are just some questions I have pondered in my heart as a way to do my own marriage checkup. Because I understand how one can say all day long one thing but in their heart it be something totally different and so, because of that I just desire that truly not only when it’s all said and done as it pertains to my marriage while I am here on this earth but right here in my now it’s my prayer that my spouse truly does bless God for me just as I too pray this is the same response as your spouse. And if, we have any doubt I also pray we will seek God to see what practical things we can do different in order to bring about that change for the better.
If our goal with our spouses are truly to build up and not tear down what practical things can we incorporate in order to do just that?
For me, one thing I can do is to pray more often and pray more specific for my spouse what about you?